Delusional Self-Confidence

Seeing the world through rose-colored glasses makes us happier.  It motivates us to try harder when we encounter obstacles in our way. It serves us well to spin negative events into positive ones; viewing a few bad interactions with the opposite gender as an opportunity for growth.  Its no coincidence that the most successful people in the world tend to be megalomaniacs.

Remember all the bitches that Aiden  saw in the club the weekend after he was rejected? Now let’s talk about the girl with the pink panty dropper who was aggressively pushed by the guy to drink more, even though she really doesn’t want to talk to him. She’s looking over his shoulder in the hopes that another guy will come in and save her from this overcompensating dick.

Or the girl standing in the corner that has lost her contact lens and is squinting through the crowd, hoping someone comes over to talk to her because she can’t see her friends and could use some company.

Or there’s the girl dancing in the middle of the room with her best guy friend. She doesn’t want to grind on him because she wants to dance with another guy who’s straight – maybe a guy she’ll want to hook-up with later.

Since most of us are going to be wrong about most of the things we believe, why not consciously overestimate one’s chances rather than underestimate them? Why not assume you’re more capable, rather than less capable? Why not view yourself as blessed with amazing opportunities, rather than a victim who’s constantly screwed over by the world?

Both views are inaccurate – or at least, they are subjective views, and neither can be proven definitively. In every aspect of your life, there are ways to view things differently. It all starts with your thoughts and how you choose to see the world.

This perspective always makes me think of Muhammad Ali. He viewed himself in such a way that people that he was psychotic. “I’m so mean I make medicine sick,” he said. His sense of reality was way overestimated in comparison to the normal, but look at what he achieved. Look at who he became.

My only fault is that I don’t realize how great I really am. – Muhammad Ali

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. You are capable of so much more than you can even imagine. Why not seek evidence that supports THAT belief? Why not craft the story in your head to fit that plot – that you are blessed, you are privileged, and that you don’t need anything to prove it to yourself? Women are lucky to be with you. Any financial firm or comedy club would be lucky to have you in their building.

Why not put on those beliefs when you wake up every day and see how they influence your behavior? Step into those beliefs the same way you step into your jeans, and see how that behavior affects your results.  Notice how those results affect your world view.

“Everybody wants to change the world, but no one wants to change.” – Unknown

It starts with you untying your rope that binds you , and rewriting the code that operates your life .

Everything is a gift. It just takes introspection to see it that way.

Most things in your life are caused by a self-fulfilling prophecy. Why not consciously choose to make your prophecy epic?

Kyle Benson

Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgemental style and his capacity to seeing the root problem. Download the Intimacy 5 Challenge to learn where you and your partner can improve your emotional connection and build lasting intimacy.
Delusional Self-Confidence