Sex in a committed relationship can be bed-shaking, neighbor-waking and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us stop wanting it?
It only takes one partner’s focus on an actual or anticipated sexual dysfunction to disconnect both during the act.…
Continue reading Here If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want. It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu. Good luck with that!… Continue reading Here
Over the next few weeks, Briana Macwilliams an Attachment Therapist and I will be sharing a 4-part video series about adult attachment, love and relationships, based on frequently asked questions we regularly receive.
One question we get is: “How do I express my needs in a relationship?”…
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Have you ever met someone who was so desperate for love that they would do anything to try and keep a relationship working?
A few years ago, I was that guy. Needy, desperate, and insecure.
My past relationships have not worked out.…
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The absence of
delight in your partner creates an emptiness in a marriage that ruins love. According to Dr. Gottman’s research on long-lasting marriages, the number one predictor as to whether a marriage would last was the presence or absence of contempt.… Continue reading Here This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. “Let’s talk about sex baby. Let’s talk about you and me!” – Salt N Pepa
It turns out the most important part of cultivating a healthy sex life is talking about a healthy sex life.…
Continue reading Here Do you have a pattern of being attracted to an emotionally unavailable intimate partner who is emotionally protected and difficult to get close with?
Or do you have a
history of pushing away the sort of person who is available, caring, and easy to get close with?… Continue reading Here This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”
Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.…
Continue reading Here How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws? Conflict conversations in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here This was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.… Continue reading Here