Attachment Theory Explains Why Your Relationships Fail

Attachment Theory

Attachment Theory

The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.


We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.

Here are some examples:

Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.

It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.

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2 Hidden Ways We Sabotage Intimacy In The Relationship We Want

Ruined Relationship

Ruined Relationship

Do you have a pattern of being attracted to an emotionally unavailable intimate partner who is emotionally protected and difficult to get close with?

Or do you have a history of pushing away the sort of person who is available, caring, and easy to get close with?… Continue reading Here

Why Needing a Relationship is Toxic to a Relationship

Toxic Relationship

Toxic Relationship

In our modern culture, not being in a relationship ends up causing a person to be labeled as “having a problem.”

His parents are worried. They don’t miss a chance to ask him if he’s dating anyone. His friends are trying to help by setting him up on dates with every girl they meet in Starbucks.  … Continue reading Here

Women Do Not Judge Attractiveness by a Man’s Resources



Attractiveness is a game of blind man’s poker.

Let’s put 50 men and 50 women in a sealed hotel conference room. What happens next?

Groups would began to form.


But how do these groups form? What is the basis for the group of men, the group of women, the mixed group and the loners in the room?… Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication



Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear.

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society. We were raised to be quiet, to not be too loud or crazy.… Continue reading Here

Value Attracts Value



In the first 30 seconds of meeting someone, you’re both paying close attention to the sub-communication. They are determining your value, and you are determining theirs. We become attracted to other people when our values match. Whether it’s our socioeconomic status, our desire to write and learn, or our joy of spending time with family and playing board games.… Continue reading Here