Intentionally Intimate Relationships
Do you want to build emotional wealth in your relationship?
If so, let’s break this down.
It turns out the number one thing couples fight about is nothing.
This not-so-earth-shattering discovery was made in Dr. Gottman’s Love Lab after spending more than 40 years studying over 3,000 couples.… Continue reading Here
Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear. As a result, these worries can interfere with communication. Or, more specifically, vulnerable communication, which is incredibly important in romantic relationships
Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society.… Continue reading Here
Amazing sex lies at the intersection of romance and passion.
Romance: an emotional state that happens when two people nurture and encourage acts and thoughts that cherish each other.
Passion: an emotional state that arises when a strong interest of desire, curiosity, and attraction.… Continue reading Here
The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.
Why?
We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Here are some examples:
Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here
If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.
It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.
Good luck with that!… Continue reading Here
When I work with couples, it’s not uncommon for one partner to say, “I can’t handle my partner’s anger,” or “Her crying overwhelms me, I don’t know what to do.”
The other partner expresses, “He never listens to me,” or “She never cares about my life.”… Continue reading Here
After studying more than 3,000 couples in his Love Lab over the last four decades, Dr. John Gottman has discovered that the most important issue in marriage is trust.
Can I trust you to be there for me when I’m upset?… Continue reading Here
We are supposed to find love by dating around. All across the globe, different pairs of strangers meet every night at restaurants hoping that the person sitting across from them is “The One.”
Many dates will be awkward enough to signal the server over immediately for the check.… Continue reading Here
Interviewed by Kyle Benson For The Gottman Relationship Blog
Susan David, Ph.D. is an award-winning psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. Her new book Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life teaches a counterintuitive approach to achieving your true potential, which was heralded by the Harvard Business Review as a groundbreaking idea of the year in 2016.… Continue reading Here
This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.
As soon as the engagement ring is slipped on, we are inundated with messages about how our relationship should be. Our friends and family tell us what we should tolerate and what we shouldn’t.… Continue reading Here