Beliefs

Why Needing a Relationship is Toxic to a Relationship

Toxic Relationship

Toxic Relationship

In our modern culture, not being in a relationship ends up causing a person to be labeled as “having a problem.”

His parents are worried. They don’t miss a chance to ask him if he’s dating anyone. His friends are trying to help by setting him up on dates with every girl they meet in Starbucks.  … Continue reading Here

Why Insecure People Struggle With Vulnerability

Insecurity

Insecurity

As we’ve seen on this site, vulnerable communication is the solution for finding a healthy relationship and happy life. At a glance, most treat vulnerability as if it is something every person can do. Many believe that if the person sets their mind to it, they can get their needs met in a healthy manner.… Continue reading Here

Women Do Not Judge Attractiveness by a Man’s Resources

Attraction

Attraction

Attractiveness is a game of blind man’s poker.

Let’s put 50 men and 50 women in a sealed hotel conference room. What happens next?

Groups would began to form.

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But how do these groups form? What is the basis for the group of men, the group of women, the mixed group and the  loners in the room?… Continue reading Here

The Bizarre Way Invulnerability Prevents Healthy Relationships

Invulnerability

Invulnerability

There’s a reason you’re reading this.

Perhaps you’re afraid to approach an attractive woman. Maybe you hear yourself bringing up boring topics like sports and the weather. Lots of us fall back on these topics. They’re “safe” and surface topics that don’t risk offending anyone.… Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication

Communication

Communication

Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear.

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society. We were raised to be quiet, to not be too loud or crazy.… Continue reading Here

Value Attracts Value

Value

Value

In the first thirty seconds of meeting someone, you’re both paying close attention to the sub-communication. They are determining your value, and you are determining theirs. We become attracted to other people when our values match. Whether it’s our socioeconomic status, our desire to write and learn, or our joy of spending time with family and playing board games.… Continue reading Here

Your City Affects Attraction

Your City Affects Attraction

Part I of Dating Demographics

As Jared Diamond pointed out in his book Guns, Germs and Steel, there are many things that are relative to environment; humanity’s evolution, values, inventions, and even diseases. It wasn’t until food production became a resource for our ancestors that humans actually started condensing populations to smaller areas.… Continue reading Here