Intentionally Intimate Relationships
The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship. Often, there’s a war of independence going on in relationships that is fought for no good reason.
Every relationship involves some level of dependency. But in a relationship built of dependency entirely, a chronic sense of anxiety begins to creep in.
Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves and what we believe we are capable of.… Continue reading Here
Sex books look to answer many questions. Why do we have sex? Why do we cheat? Why are some women able to have orgasms while others are not?
These are some of the questions I sought to answer. Today, I want to share with you what I’ve learned.… Continue reading Here
The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.
Why?
We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Here are some examples:
Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here
Sex in a committed relationship can be bed-shaking, neighbor-waking and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us stop wanting it?
It only takes one partner’s focus on an actual or anticipated sexual dysfunction to disconnect both during the act.… Continue reading Here
Having a toxic relationship isn’t as uncommon as you think.
Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. Some of us need more connection, others need independence.
What if I told you there were only two roads to making a toxic relationship healthier?… Continue reading Here
If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.
It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.
Good luck with that!… Continue reading Here
Over the next few weeks, Briana Macwilliams an Attachment Therapist and I will be sharing a 4-part video series about adult attachment, love and relationships, based on frequently asked questions we regularly receive.
One question we get is: “How do I express my needs in a relationship?”… Continue reading Here
Love is in the air, love is everywhere.
Turn on your TV or scroll through your social media accounts and you’ll see how much attention romantic relationships receive. You’ll see blog posts, YouTube videos, and podcasts illuminating the virtues and dramas of love.… Continue reading Here
Interview Guest: Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., is a co-founder of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, which integrates attachment theory and differentiation. Through her work at The Couples Institute, she has specialized in helping couples transform their relationships since 1984.
The idealized relationship where partners are fused at the hip is not a healthy relationship, as it doesn’t allow for the unique differences of each partner.… Continue reading Here