Intentionally Intimate Relationships
Sex in a committed relationship can be bed-shaking, neighbor-waking and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us stop wanting it?
It only takes one partner’s focus on an actual or anticipated sexual dysfunction to disconnect both during the act.… Continue reading Here
Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. Some of us need more connection, others need independence. What if I told you there were only two roads to making a toxic relationship healthier?
Road One is breaking up and finding a more secure partner.… Continue reading Here
If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.
It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.
Good luck with that!… Continue reading Here
Over the next few weeks, Briana Macwilliams an Attachment Therapist and I will be sharing a 4-part video series about adult attachment, love and relationships, based on frequently asked questions we regularly receive.
One question we get is: “How do I express my needs in a relationship?”
Such a simple, yet complicated question, isn’t it?… Continue reading Here
Love is in the air, love is everywhere.
Turn on your TV or scroll through your social media accounts and you’ll see how much attention romantic relationships receive. You’ll see blog posts, YouTube videos, and podcasts illuminating the virtues and dramas of love.… Continue reading Here
Interview Guest: Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., is a co-founder of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, which integrates attachment theory and differentiation. Through her work at The Couples Institute, she has specialized in helping couples transform their relationships since 1984.
The idealized relationship where partners are fused at the hip is not a healthy relationship, as it doesn’t allow for the unique differences of each partner.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever met someone who was so desperate for love that they would do anything to try and keep a relationship working?
Um… Hi.
A few years ago, I was that guy. Needy, desperate, and insecure.
My past relationships have not worked out.… Continue reading Here
After studying more than 3,000 couples in his Love Lab over the last four decades, Dr. John Gottman has discovered that the most important issue in marriage is trust.
Can I trust you to be there for me when I’m upset?… Continue reading Here
This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.
In the heat of an argument, it’s far easier to say what we don’t want than what we do. Stan Tatkin, the founder of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy, proposes that people are better built for war than love.… Continue reading Here
This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog
Heather’s voice raises as she says, “How can you not see it my way? It’s the truth and you know it. You’re just too stubborn to admit it!”
Jason responds, “That’s not what happened at all.… Continue reading Here