Mindset

Mindset contains articles relating to psychology, unwarranted thoughts, and ways to be happy.

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Jessica Baum, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and its sister company Be Self-full®, is a certified substance abuse specialist with a focus in chemical abuse, co-dependency, and anxiety. She is also an Imago therapist, and she uses the Imago approach to treat family systems and relationship issues. Continue reading Here

5 Ways to Build Emotional Wealth in Your Relationship

5 Ways to Build Emotional Wealth in Your Relationship

emotional wealth

Do you want to build emotional wealth in your relationship?

If so, let’s break this down.

Building Emotional Wealth in Relationships

It turns out the number one thing couples fight about is nothing.

This not-so-earth-shattering discovery was made in Dr. Gottman’s Love Lab after spending more than 40 years studying over 3,000 couples.… Continue reading Here

Criticism Kills Relationships: Why this Habit is Poisonous

criticism kills relationships

criticism kills relationships

Is it true that criticism kills relationships?

No one wants to stay in a relationship that makes them feel more judged than admired. Yet, it’s too common for couples to see the other person as the problem, leading to constant criticism.Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication

Communication

Communication

Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear. As a result, these worries can interfere with communication. Or, more specifically, vulnerable communication, which is incredibly important in romantic relationships

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society.Continue reading Here

3 Must Do’s For Amazing Sex in a Relationship

Amazing Sex

Amazing Sex

Amazing sex lies at the intersection of romance and passion.

Romance: an emotional state that happens when two people nurture and encourage acts and thoughts that cherish each other.

Passion: an emotional state that arises when a strong interest of desire, curiosity, and attraction.Continue reading Here

4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships

4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships

attachment-style

Your attachment style can significantly influence the way that you relate to other people, including your comfort with emotional intimacy, how you connect (or don’t) and communicate (or don’t), with romantic partners.1

A key to changing the quality and security of your romantic relationships is first learning how your attachment system becomes activated and becoming mindful of your unconscious attachment strategies (healthy or not so healthy) to regain security in your intimate bond.… Continue reading Here

5 Relationship Books That Will Profoundly Change The Way You Love

Love Books

Do you like having orgasms? (Hear me out…I promise this is leading to relationship books)

I do. There’s nothing like a full-body-shaking, breath-taking, heart-pounding orgasm that causes me to wake up the neighbors. But as much as I love sexual orgasms, I love stimulating my brain.Continue reading Here

Defensiveness Doesn’t Protect a Relationship: 4 DIY Remedies

Defensive

Defensive
Being defensive blocks connection, compassion, and isolates you from your partner. Instead of focusing on we-ness, a defensive person focuses on me-ness. Defensiveness is one of the most dangerous signs of toxic fighting because it creates never-ending cycles of negativity.… Continue reading Here

5 Steps to Fighting Better if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For

5 Steps to Fighting Better if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For

Fighting in relationships? It’s not ALWAYS bad. Or avoidable. In fact, conflict is inevitable in every relationship.

Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.”… Continue reading Here

Conflict in Relationships: 3 Steps to Help Your Partner See Your Side

Conflict in Relationships: 3 Steps to Help Your Partner See Your Side

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.

Conflict in relationships isn’t easy: There’s hurt. There’s misunderstanding. And, at the same time, there are parts of us that are screaming to feel validated and understood.

The problem for many of us is we have learned to communicate in a way that actually pushes our partners away from truly understanding us or meeting our needs.… Continue reading Here