Clingy Lover Archives

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships

Kyle Benson August 3, 2023August 3, 2023 Attachment Theory, Clingy Lover, Distant Lover, Relationships

protest-withdraw pattern, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment

This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling.

Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, Wa seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist, were excited about this fresh chapter in their lives.… Continue reading Here

Transform Clingy Insecurity Into a Superpower

Kyle Benson June 10, 2020February 9, 2021 Attachment Theory, Clingy Lover, Trust, Commitment, & Relationship Security

insecurity is healed by super secure lovers, friends, and therapist

All superheroes have weaknesses that can cripple them. Like Superman’s kryptonite, my clingy insecurity in my relationship five years ago brought me to my knees.

When I met Crystal, I fell head over heels instantly. She gave me just enough to show she was interested.… Continue reading Here

Attachment and Couple Dances With Briana MacWilliam

Kyle Benson March 28, 2019January 29, 2021 Attachment Theory, Attraction, Better Relationships, Clingy Lover, Dating, Distant Lover

When couples do not feel emotionally safe and secure, it’s not uncommon for them to create distance and be mean to each other. Sadly, the more two partners speak harshly to one another, the more negativity dominates their relationship. Leading to feelings of polarization and isolation.… Continue reading Here

How Can I Spice Up the Romance in My Relationship? With Briana MacWilliam

Kyle Benson February 14, 2019February 9, 2021 Attachment Theory, Better Relationships, Clingy Lover, Conflict Conversation, Distant Lover, Emotional Connection, Holidays, Intimacy, Marriage Conflict, Relationships

In our last video, Briana and I discussed the question: “How do I communicate my needs in a relationship?”

Today, we address a special question in honor of Valentine’s Day: “How can I spice up the romance in my relationship?”… Continue reading Here

How Do I Express My Needs in a Relationship? With Briana MacWilliam

Kyle Benson February 11, 2019February 9, 2021 Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Clingy Lover, Conflict Conversation, Distant Lover, Emotional Connection, Intimacy, Relationship Arguments, Relationship Fights, Relationships, Responsibility, Shame

Over the next few weeks, Briana Macwilliams an Attachment Therapist and I will be sharing a 4-part video series about adult attachment, love and relationships, based on frequently asked questions we regularly receive.

One question we get is: “How do I express my needs in a relationship?”… Continue reading Here

9 Popular Relationship Beliefs That Can Be Destructive to Lasting Love

Kyle Benson August 13, 2018February 9, 2021 Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Clingy Lover, Conflict Conversation, Distant Lover, Marriage Conflict, Trust, Commitment, & Relationship Security

Love is in the air, love is everywhere.

Turn on your TV or scroll through your social media accounts and you’ll see how much attention romantic relationships receive. You’ll see blog posts, YouTube videos, and podcasts illuminating the virtues and dramas of love.… Continue reading Here

You Are Only As Insecure As The Relationship You’re In

Kyle Benson March 8, 2018January 21, 2019 Attachment Theory, Attraction, Authentic Dating Advice, Clingy Lover, Distant Lover, Rejection

When Maddie met Steve, she fell for him quickly. He was an independent and self-reliant business owner. The conversations were interesting and she admired his ambition. She was giddy when she was around him. She finally felt like she had found someone she wanted to be with after so many terrible first and second dates.… Continue reading Here