Attachment Theory

The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection

The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection
Blame game, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, criticize-defense pattern

In the intricate dance of romantic relationships, an intriguing yet often distressing pattern emerges – the “Blame Game” dynamic. This complex interplay involves partners striving for connection and validation through confrontational tactics rather than embracing vulnerability.

The question that inevitably arises is: What prompts individuals to resort to such seemingly counter-connecting behaviors?Continue reading Here

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
protest-withdraw pattern, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment

This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling.

Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, Wa seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist, were excited about this fresh chapter in their lives.… Continue reading Here

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Jessica Baum, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and its sister company Be Self-full®, is a certified substance abuse specialist with a focus in chemical abuse, co-dependency, and anxiety. She is also an Imago therapist, and she uses the Imago approach to treat family systems and relationship issues. Continue reading Here

5 Steps to the Roach Motel of Relationships & How to Stay Out of It

5 Steps to the Roach Motel of Relationships & How to Stay Out of It

roach motel

Have you ever heard of the Roach Motel?

In Dr. John Gottman’s observational research of heterosexual, gay, and lesbian couples,1 he found that in every interaction couples were either nice, neutral, or nasty toward each other.

It doesn’t take Dr.… Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication

Communication

Communication

Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear. As a result, these worries can interfere with communication. Or, more specifically, vulnerable communication, which is incredibly important in romantic relationships

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society.Continue reading Here

4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships

Couples therapy
attachment-style

Your attachment style can significantly influence the way that you relate to other people, including your comfort with emotional intimacy, how you connect (or don’t) and communicate (or don’t), with romantic partners.1

A key to changing the quality and security of your romantic relationships is first learning how your attachment system becomes activated and becoming mindful of your unconscious attachment strategies (healthy or not so healthy) to regain security in your intimate bond.… Continue reading Here

2 Hidden Ways We Sabotage Intimacy In a Relationship We Want

Ruined Relationship

Ruined Relationship

 

Do you have a pattern of being attracted to an emotionally unavailable intimate partner who is emotionally protected and difficult to get close with? Or do you have a history of pushing away the sort of person who is available, caring, and easy to get close with?… Continue reading Here

Dependency in Relationships: What to Expect

Dependency in Relationships

Dependency in Relationships

Dependency in a relationship can feel suffocating.

Sometimes we lose our sense of self in our partner.  We can feel a love so deep, it can be as if we’ve become one with our partner and the universe.  It’s a unique, fairy-tale experience, and it’s what psychologists call a collapse of the ego state.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps to Becoming an Emotionally Available Partner

Emotionally Available

Emotionally Available

Being emotionally available isn’t as easy as it sounds. 

 

This is one of the most common issues couples face. I get a lot of messages like this:

“Hey Kyle, I read your last few articles about emotionally unavailable partners. It makes a lot of sense that you recommend others to avoid those of us with those flaws.Continue reading Here

Conflict in Relationships Isn’t the Root of All Evil

Avoidant attachment styles, emotional avoidance patterns, relationship disconnect, emotional vulnerability, attachment fears, navigating emotional distance, couples therapy for avoidant attachment, emotional intimacy challenges, break free from avoidance, healing attachment dynamics, emotionally distant partners, building emotional connection, avoidant attachment strategies, overcoming emotional barriers, bridging relationship gaps.

conflict in relationships

There is a misconception that conflict in relationships is the root of all relationship demise. Watching a couple fight, it may seem that way.

The truth about conflict in relationships

Steph: “Our house is always a chaotic mess!”

Julian: “It’s not my fault, I don’t have time to do everything.”… Continue reading Here