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February 3, 2024 Ask Me Anything Answers on Secure Relationships

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The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection

The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection
Blame game, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, criticize-defense pattern

In the intricate dance of romantic relationships, an intriguing yet often distressing pattern emerges – the “Blame Game” dynamic. This complex interplay involves partners striving for connection and validation through confrontational tactics rather than embracing vulnerability.

The question that inevitably arises is: What prompts individuals to resort to such seemingly counter-connecting behaviors?Continue reading Here

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
protest-withdraw pattern, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment

This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling.

Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, Wa seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist, were excited about this fresh chapter in their lives.… Continue reading Here

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Anxiously Attached: An Interview with Jessica Baum

Jessica Baum, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and its sister company Be Self-full®, is a certified substance abuse specialist with a focus in chemical abuse, co-dependency, and anxiety. She is also an Imago therapist, and she uses the Imago approach to treat family systems and relationship issues. Continue reading Here

5 Ways to Build Emotional Wealth in Your Relationship

5 Ways to Build Emotional Wealth in Your Relationship

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Do you want to build emotional wealth in your relationship?

If so, let’s break this down.

Building Emotional Wealth in Relationships

It turns out the number one thing couples fight about is nothing.

This not-so-earth-shattering discovery was made in Dr. Gottman’s Love Lab after spending more than 40 years studying over 3,000 couples.… Continue reading Here

5 Steps to the Roach Motel of Relationships & How to Stay Out of It

5 Steps to the Roach Motel of Relationships & How to Stay Out of It

roach motel

Have you ever heard of the Roach Motel?

In Dr. John Gottman’s observational research of heterosexual, gay, and lesbian couples,1 he found that in every interaction couples were either nice, neutral, or nasty toward each other.

It doesn’t take Dr.… Continue reading Here

Criticism Kills Relationships: Why this Habit is Poisonous

criticism kills relationships

criticism kills relationships

Is it true that criticism kills relationships?

No one wants to stay in a relationship that makes them feel more judged than admired. Yet, it’s too common for couples to see the other person as the problem, leading to constant criticism.Continue reading Here

Ways to Cultivate a Strong Romantic Relationship

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romantic relationship

It’s a misconception that a romantic relationship is healthy and happy because there is a lack of negative or nasty conflict. 

Even if partners aren’t having conflict or partaking in other unhealthy relational habits, they will grow apart simply because they aren’t dedicating the time and effort to remain emotionally connected. Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication

Communication

Communication

Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear. As a result, these worries can interfere with communication. Or, more specifically, vulnerable communication, which is incredibly important in romantic relationships

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society.Continue reading Here

3 Must Do’s For Amazing Sex in a Relationship

Amazing Sex

Amazing Sex

Amazing sex lies at the intersection of romance and passion.

Romance: an emotional state that happens when two people nurture and encourage acts and thoughts that cherish each other.

Passion: an emotional state that arises when a strong interest of desire, curiosity, and attraction.Continue reading Here