Anyone who finds themselves in a dysfunctional relationship will either try to make their soulmate “perfect” by changing them, or try to change themselves to be the “perfect” partner.
Here’s the truth:
- You can’t make a person change.
- Every person is imperfect.
Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened
One of the most destructive patterns in romantic relationships is negative interpretations. A negative interpretation occurs when a significant other believes that the motives of their partner are more negative than they actually are.1
This toxic behavior is a silent killer of relationships.… Continue reading Here
Every sexual act – from erotic talk to erotic touch – is a journey into yourself and your partner. It’s a continual exploration of sensations, eroticism, and love. Each relationship is a vessel that embodies both security and adventure in a commitment that offers life’s greatest luxuries: time.… Continue reading Here
The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.
We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Here are some examples:
Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.
It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.
Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here
Intimate sex. For some, just reading that phrase brings discomfort.
Past sexual rejection or embarrassment about our bodies is often to blame for intimacy issues.… Continue reading Here
Love is like a light switch.
When people fall in love, the light turns on. They typically feel excited, captivated, and eager to get to know their partners. They see each other in a positive light.
When couples divorce, the most common reason is that they “grew apart.”… Continue reading Here
After observing thousands of different relationship conflicts, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues noticed that every relationship has two kinds of problems: solvable and unsolvable.
Solvable problems can be resolved with healthy communication, understanding, and commitment to changes. Essentially, once the problem is discussed in a mature way and an adjustment is made, the problem is no longer a problem.… Continue reading Here
Sex in a committed relationship can be bed-shaking, neighbor-waking and anxiety-freeing. If that’s true, then how come a committed relationship is when many of us stop wanting it?
It only takes one partner’s focus on an actual or anticipated sexual dysfunction to disconnect both during the act.… Continue reading Here