Emotional Connection

The Top 3 Insecurities in Love That Ruin Your Relationship

Vulnerability

insecurities in love

We all have different insecurities in life. But when those vulnerabilities work their way into our relationships, insecurities in love can ruin our partnerships.

All couples come to experience the raw buttons of their partner. Happy couples understand each other’s imperfections and enduring vulnerabilities, while unhappy couples use these enduring vulnerabilities as fire power in the heat of a battle.… Continue reading Here

If Love Requires Effort, Is It Meant To Be?

Meaningful Love

With just about everything at our fingertips at any given moment, we’ve grown accustomed to things being easy. But should that apply to our relationships? If love requires effort, is it really meant to be?

Do you remember Cinderella?

That blond princess whose miserable life was instantly transformed by her gorgeous-smooth-move-well-dressed-billionaire prince charming.… Continue reading Here

Trust & Commitment: Why Every Happy Relationship Needs It

Trust & Commitment: Why Every Happy Relationship Needs It

Believe me when I say, a happy relationship is IMPOSSIBLE without trust and commitment. Don’t believe me? Keep reading.

Love is like Legos. In each passing moment, we are either building a wall between ourselves and our lover or a bridge into each other’s hearts.… Continue reading Here

The War of Independence In Relationships

Independence

Independence

The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship. Often, there’s a war of independence going on in relationships that is fought for no good reason.

Meet Kim and Kevin.

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A Relationship Built of Dependency: The Paradox of Love

Dependency

Every relationship involves some level of dependency. But in a relationship built of dependency entirely, a chronic sense of anxiety begins to creep in.

Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves and what we believe we are capable of.… Continue reading Here

Relationship Connection: 3 Choices that Make or Break It

Connection

You have three relationship connection choices that can make your partnership amazing or lonely.

“Feed and clothe a human infant but deprive him of emotional contact [and] he will die.” – A General Theory of Love

Matt and Evalin fight about everything under the sun.… Continue reading Here

How to Find a Couples Therapist Who Can Actually Help You

couples-therapist

couples-therapist

Couples Therapy. That can be intimidating.

Practically every week, I receive emails from couples who have spent 16+ months in therapy. So I ask…

  • How has your relationship improved?
  • What skills did you learn to build a stronger friendship or manage conflict in healthy ways?
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Is it Time to Go to Couples Counseling?

Is it Time to Go to Couples Counseling?

couples counseling

We are all familiar with couples counseling.

But before we get into that, let me back up a little bit.

Ongoing relationship distress is harmful to each romantic partner’s mental1 and physical well-being,2 and in addition, can negatively impact the kids.… Continue reading Here

Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened

Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened

interpretations

One of the most destructive patterns in romantic relationships is negative interpretations. A negative interpretation occurs when a significant other believes that the motives of their partner are more negative than they actually are.1

This toxic behavior is a silent killer of relationships.… Continue reading Here