Intentionally Intimate Relationships
Dating and relationships covers topics from attachment theory, to sex, to meeting people, to expectations, to how love works.
After observing thousands of different relationship conflicts, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues noticed that every relationship has two kinds of problems: solvable and unsolvable.
Solvable problems can be resolved with healthy communication, understanding, and commitment to changes. Essentially, once the problem is discussed in a mature way and an adjustment is made, the problem is no longer a problem.… Continue reading Here
“Few dating couples would get married if they had as little focused conversation as most married couples do.” – Dr. Bill Doughty, The Intentional Family
How couples talk to one another and what they discuss determines the way partners stay emotionally connected within their relationship.… Continue reading Here
Without extensive research, one might assume that both partners in a romantic relationship would have similar opinions and levels of satisfaction.
This is a myth.
Over 5 million individuals in a committed relationship have confirmed that each romantic partner has their own unique view of the marriage or relationship.… Continue reading Here
In troubled romantic relationships, unexpressed feelings lead to emotional distance and harsh conflict.
How do you deal with your difficult feelings—including resentment, anger, sadness, hurt, shame, and fear—in your relationship? Do you stuff them inside? Do you attack whoever influenced those feelings to arise?… Continue reading Here
I’ll be honest, dating can be difficult. It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed with the number of possible ways to find a life partner, with deciding whether to go on a second date or cancel and eat Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy, or with knowing when to commit to someone.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever asked yourself, “Do I stay in this relationship or do I go?”
Briana MacWilliam and I discuss the difficult decision of whether to divorce, ending a long-term relationship, or whether to invest fully in the relationship with the hope that things will get better.… Continue reading Here
This month, Briana and I are sharing a 4-part video series to help you understand problematic relationship patterns and offer you guidance to enhance your relationship.
In our first video, we discussed the question: “How do I communicate my needs in a relationship?”
Books offer a path to who we can become and to the type of relationship we can create.
For this reason, I am addicted to books on how to have better relationships and become a better person overall. As the new year starts, I want to share my top ten favorite books I read in 2018 and some books I am looking forward to reading in 2019.… Continue reading Here
This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog
The idea that the love in your relationship has expired is a difficult thought for one to stomach. I often think of myself as Cupid’s sidekick. I root for couples that I work with to triumph, but I have seen love turn into hate and fondness into bitterness.… Continue reading Here
What determines whether you feel loved or rejected?
If your partner comes up to you and says “you’re needy,” do you laugh or cry?
Even though we speak the same language with our partner, each of us swims in a sea of private meanings.… Continue reading Here