Dating and Relationships

Dating and relationships covers topics from attachment theory, to sex, to meeting people, to expectations, to how love works.

4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships

4 Anxious Attachment Strategies That Sabotage Intimate Relationships

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Your attachment style can significantly influence the way that you relate to other people, including your comfort with emotional intimacy, how you connect (or don’t) and communicate (or don’t), with romantic partners.1

A key to changing the quality and security of your romantic relationships is first learning how your attachment system becomes activated and becoming mindful of your unconscious attachment strategies (healthy or not so healthy) to regain security in your intimate bond.… Continue reading Here

New Year’s Resolutions: A New Opportunity for Intimacy (20+ Questions to Ask Your Lover)

New Year’s Resolutions: A New Opportunity for Intimacy (20+ Questions to Ask Your Lover)

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What are your upcoming New Year’s Resolutions?

“Part of what makes life meaningful are the goals we strive to achieve.” – Dr.John Gottman, 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

2020 was the longest year yet. With a global pandemic, an emotionally charged political election in America, and conversations surrounding racial inequalities, it’s been a year for the books.… Continue reading Here

A Relationship Built of Dependency: The Paradox of Love

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Every relationship involves some level of dependency. But in a relationship built of dependency entirely, a chronic sense of anxiety begins to creep in.

Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves and what we believe we are capable of.… Continue reading Here

Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened

Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened

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One of the most destructive patterns in romantic relationships is negative interpretations. A negative interpretation occurs when a significant other believes that the motives of their partner are more negative than they actually are.1

This toxic behavior is a silent killer of relationships.… Continue reading Here

The Intentions vs. Impact Debate: When Partner’s Unintentionally Hurt Each Other

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How do you respond when your partner questions your intentions?

Do you get angry? Defensive?

I do.

One of the big reasons we struggle with relationship conflict is due to the misunderstanding caused by the intention vs. impact battle.

In Dr.… Continue reading Here

5 Steps to Inspire Your Partner to Join You in Attending Couples Therapy

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Relationship challenges are inevitable. When both partners are willing to face the challenges hand-in-hand and work together to find win-win solutions, most problems can be managed.

But sometimes couples lack the skills and tools to work through even solvable problems in their relationship.… Continue reading Here

The Conflict Escalator: The ABCs of Escalating Conflict

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escalating-conflict

Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.

It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.

Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here

Relationship Conflict: 9 Signs Yours is Unsolvable and Destructive

Relationship Conflict: 9 Signs Yours is Unsolvable and Destructive

relationship-conflict

After observing thousands of different relationship conflicts, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues noticed that every relationship has two kinds of problems: solvable and unsolvable.

Solvable problems can be resolved with healthy communication, understanding, and commitment to changes. Essentially, once the problem is discussed in a mature way and an adjustment is made, the problem is no longer a problem.… Continue reading Here

Both Partners Are Never Equally Satisfied in a Romantic Relationship

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Without extensive research, one might assume that both partners in a romantic relationship would have similar opinions and levels of satisfaction.

This is a myth.

Over 5 million individuals in a committed relationship have confirmed that each romantic partner has their own unique view of the marriage or relationship.… Continue reading Here