Dating and Relationships

Dating and relationships covers topics from attachment theory, to sex, to meeting people, to expectations, to how love works.

The Conflict Escalator: The ABCs of Escalating Conflict

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Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.

It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.

Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here

Relationship Conflict: 9 Signs Yours is Unsolvable and Destructive

Relationship Conflict: 9 Signs Yours is Unsolvable and Destructive

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After observing thousands of different relationship conflicts, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues noticed that every relationship has two kinds of problems: solvable and unsolvable.

Solvable problems can be resolved with healthy communication, understanding, and commitment to changes. Essentially, once the problem is discussed in a mature way and an adjustment is made, the problem is no longer a problem.… Continue reading Here

Both Partners Are Never Equally Satisfied in a Romantic Relationship

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Without extensive research, one might assume that both partners in a romantic relationship would have similar opinions and levels of satisfaction.

This is a myth.

Over 5 million individuals in a committed relationship have confirmed that each romantic partner has their own unique view of the marriage or relationship.… Continue reading Here

The Cost of Unexpressed Feelings in Romantic Relationships

unexpressed feelings

In troubled romantic relationships, unexpressed feelings lead to emotional distance and harsh conflict.

How do you deal with your difficult feelings—including resentment, anger, sadness, hurt, shame, and fear—in your relationship? Do you stuff them inside? Do you attack whoever influenced those feelings to arise?… Continue reading Here

The Honest Path to Finding a Lifelong Partner With Rachel Russo

First Date

I’ll be honest, dating can be difficult. It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed with the number of possible ways to find a life partner, with deciding whether to go on a second date or cancel and eat Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy, or with knowing when to commit to someone.… Continue reading Here

What is the Difference Between Love and Attachment? With Briana MacWilliam

Toxic Relationship

This month, Briana and I are sharing a 4-part video series to help you understand problematic relationship patterns and offer you guidance to enhance your relationship.

  • In our first video, we discussed the question: “How do I communicate my needs in a relationship?” You can watch it here.

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The Top 10 Relationship Books I Read in 2018

Relationship Books

Relationship Books

Books offer a path to who we can become and to the type of relationship we can create.

For this reason, I am addicted to books on how to have better relationships and become a better person overall. As the new year starts, I want to share my top ten favorite books I read in 2018 and some books I am looking forward to reading in 2019.… Continue reading Here

New Year’s Resolutions: A New Opportunity for Intimacy (20+ Questions to Ask Your Lover)

New Year’s Resolutions: A New Opportunity for Intimacy (20+ Questions to Ask Your Lover)

New Year

“Part of what makes life meaningful are the goals we strive to achieve.” – Dr.John Gottman, 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

With a new year upon us, many of us, myself included, start 2019 with new goals.

Your goals may be overcoming your attachment insecurity and getting out of debt.… Continue reading Here