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Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened

Kyle Benson March 3, 2020January 14, 2021 Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Dating and Relationships, Relationship Arguments, Relationships, Trust, Commitment, & Relationship Security, Vulnerability

One of the most destructive patterns in romantic relationships is negative interpretations. A negative interpretation occurs when a significant other believes that the motives of their partner are more negative than they actually are.¹

This toxic behavior is a silent killer of relationships.… Continue reading Here

4 Sex Books You Must Read To Understand Sexuality & Orgasm

Kyle Benson December 11, 2019January 15, 2021 Amazing Sex, Anxiety, Beliefs, Best sex books, Sex, Sex, Sexual Shame, Top Relationship & Sex Books, Vulnerability

Sex books look to answer many questions. Why do we have sex? Why do we cheat? Why are some women able to have orgasms while others are not?

These are some of the questions I sought to answer. Today, I want to share with you what I’ve learned.… Continue reading Here

Attachment Theory Explains Why Your Relationships Fail

Kyle Benson November 13, 2019December 30, 2020 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Culture, Happiness, Identity, Love, Psychology, Rejection, Relationships, Vulnerability

The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.

Why?

We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.

Here are some examples:

Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here

How Chronic Stonewalling Imprisons a Relationship

Kyle Benson September 11, 2019January 21, 2021 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Creativity, Emotional Connection, Habits, Marriage Conflict, Mindset, Relationship Arguments, Relationship Fights, Vulnerability

Have you ever watched a child try to get attention from their mom or dad?

“Pay attention to me.”
“Look at me.”
“Mommy! Daddy! Watch me.”

What happens if the child’s attachment figure is unavailable and unresponsive?

The child is bound to be distressed.… Continue reading Here

Make Your Toxic Relationship Healthy

Kyle Benson July 10, 2019January 29, 2021 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Emotional Connection, Intimacy, Love, Mindset, Psychology, Rejection, Relationship Arguments, Relationship Fights, Relationships, Vulnerability

This article was originally published on August 30, 2016, and has been updated.

Having a toxic relationship isn’t as uncommon as you think.

Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. Some of us need more connection, others need independence.

What if I told you there were only two roads to making a toxic relationship healthier?… Continue reading Here

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Kyle Benson May 8, 2019July 26, 2022 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Dating, Happiness, Identity, Love, Psychology, Rejection, Relationships, Shame, Vulnerability

If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.

It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.

Good luck with that!… Continue reading Here

The People Pleaser’s Inner Child Work in Adult Relationships With Briana MacWilliam

Kyle Benson March 27, 2019January 29, 2021 Authentic Dating Advice, Conflict Conversation, Intimacy, Relationship Arguments, Relationship Fights, Vulnerability

In this Facebook Live, Briana MacWilliams and I dive deep into the following three things:

How a people pleaser identity can inhibit a healthy relationship and how to become a more authentic romantic partner.
Partner aggression and suggestions on how to navigate it.

… Continue reading Here

How We Used The Aftermath of a Fight to Repair Our Relationship

Kyle Benson January 9, 2019February 9, 2021 Conflict Conversation, Intimacy, Relationship Arguments, Relationship Fights, Vulnerability

My partner and I got into a huge fight about our cat’s litter box.

I know this sounds ridiculous, but hear me out.

We both said things we didn’t mean. She told me I didn’t care about our cat and that my work mattered more to me than the well-being of Miss Rexy.… Continue reading Here

Negative Emotions Offer Opportunities for Connection

Kyle Benson February 10, 2018January 21, 2019 Better Relationships, Emotional Connection, Happiness, Relationships, Trust, Commitment, & Relationship Security, Vulnerability

When I work with couples, it’s not uncommon for one partner to say, “I can’t handle my partner’s anger,” or “Her crying overwhelms me, I don’t know what to do.”

The other partner expresses, “He never listens to me,” or “She never cares about my life.”… Continue reading Here