Conflict Conversation

The Black Friday of Relationships (& The Thanksgiving Challenge)

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

All criticism in a relationship is painful. Complaints that include specific request for change, can make a relationship better. Criticism does not. Inevitably criticism makes the relationship worse. We all know this. Yet, many of us, myself included, are guilty of being critical of our partners.… Continue reading Here

4 Marriage Myths That Ruin Marriages Without Partners Realizing It

Marriage

MarriageMarriage

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

As soon as the engagement ring is slipped on, we are inundated with messages about how our relationship should be. Our friends and family tell us what we should tolerate and what we shouldn’t.… Continue reading Here

2 Hidden Ways We Sabotage Intimacy In The Relationship We Want

Ruined Relationship

Ruined Relationship

Do you have a pattern of being attracted to an emotionally unavailable intimate partner who is emotionally protected and difficult to get close with?

Or do you have a history of pushing away the sort of person who is available, caring, and easy to get close with?… Continue reading Here

5 Steps to Fighting Better if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For

Couple Conflict

Couple Conflict

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.” However, Dr.… Continue reading Here

The Top 3 Vulnerabilities That Ruin Your Relationship

Vulnerability

Vulnerability

All couples come to experience the raw buttons of their partner. Happy couples understand each other’s imperfections and enduring vulnerabilities, while unhappy couples use these enduring vulnerabilities as fire power in the heat of a battle. Instead of holding hands, they point fingers.… Continue reading Here

Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

In a long-term study of 130 newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman discovered that men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce.

This critical skill is not limited to heterosexual couples.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

Overcome

Overcome

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

Financial Wealth

Managing money in marriage can create tension between partners, bankrupting the relationship both financially and emotionally. This is because arguments about money are not about money. Money has a deeper meaning than the dollar value it elicits – it represents security, freedom, and the opportunity to achieve our dreams.… Continue reading Here

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

Secure

Secure

How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws?

Conflict conversations  in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here