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9 Popular Relationship Beliefs That Can Be Destructive to Lasting Love

9 Popular Relationship Beliefs That Can Be Destructive to Lasting Love

Relationship Beliefs

Love is in the air, love is everywhere.

Turn on your TV or scroll through your social media accounts and you’ll see how much attention romantic relationships receive. You’ll see blog posts, YouTube videos, and podcasts illuminating the virtues and dramas of love.… Continue reading Here

Nasty, Neutral, or Nice: What Box Does Your Relationship Live In?

Neutral

Neutral Relationship Conflict

In every interaction, every couple falls into one of three boxes: Nasty, Neutral, or Nice.

While many of us, including couples therapist, believe that a couple’s ability to be nice during conflict conversations determines the happiness of the relationship, Dr. Gottman’s research on thousands of couples highlights that happy couples often have far more neutral conversations that are emotionally dull.… Continue reading Here

A Happy Relationship is IMPOSSIBLE Without Trust and Commitment

A Happy Relationship is IMPOSSIBLE Without Trust and Commitment

Trust and Commitment

Love is like Legos. In each passing moment, we are either building a wall between ourselves and our lover or a bridge into each other’s hearts.

Each Lego is an interaction between romantic partners. The deciding factor of whether we open or protect our hearts is the quality of trust.… Continue reading Here

Negative Emotions Offer Opportunities for Connection

Negative Emotions Offer Opportunities for Connection

Connection

When I work with couples, it’s not uncommon for one partner to say, “I can’t handle my partner’s anger,” or “Her crying overwhelms me, I don’t know what to do.”

The other partner expresses, “He never listens to me,” or “She never cares about my life.”… Continue reading Here

The Death of Love Isn’t Natural: The 7 Steps to Separation

The Death of Love Isn’t Natural: The 7 Steps to Separation

Separation

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source, it dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds, it dies of weariness, of witherings, or tarnishings, but never a natural death.”… Continue reading Here

6 Steps to an Effective Time-out That Stops Nasty Conflict

6 Steps to an Effective Time-out That Stops Nasty Conflict

Conflict

Relationship arguments can escalate quickly. When we are attacking each other, friendliness goes out the window. Since we are feeling threatened, conflict can reach a point of verbal or physical abuse.

One of the best ways to prevent your fights from escalating out of control is to take an effective time-out.… Continue reading Here

Understand the Attachment Styles in Your Relationship with Stan Tatkin

Understand the Attachment Styles in Your Relationship with Stan Tatkin

Defensiveness
Stan TatkinInterview Guest: Stan Tatkin, PsyD, is the founder of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) and is the author of Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship.… Continue reading Here