Marriage Conflict

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

FInancial Gridlock

All couples are bound to have arguments about money. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap. Each partner pulls for his or her position, making compromise impossible.… Continue reading Here

5 Guidelines for a Constructive Conversation About Finances in Your Marriage

5 Guidelines for a Constructive Conversation About Finances in Your Marriage

Finances

How do you fight with your partner when money is on the table? Do you argue with them over how to budget or criticize them for their “uncontrollable” spending habits?

As we’ve learned so far in the Managing Money in Marriage column, conflicts about money in a marriage aren’t really about money.… Continue reading Here

3 Proven Ways To Reconnect When You’re Disconnected From Your Partner

Connection

Connection

This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog.

What can you do right now to make your relationship more romantic?

You could get your wife a diamond necklace. Or maybe you could buy her the Mercedes dream car she’s always wanted.… Continue reading Here

The Meaning of Money in Marriage: Arguments Are Not Just About Saving or Spending

The Meaning of Money in Marriage: Arguments Are Not Just About Saving or Spending

Meaning of Money

It doesn’t make sense when you think about it logically. Money is simple. Keeping a budget is something an 8-year-old can do.

For a marriage to be wealthy, a couple needs to have more money coming in than going out. It’s just addition and subtraction.… Continue reading Here

The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research

Relationship Conflict

Relationship Conflict

This article was originally published on the Gottman Relationship Blog.

Do you know Angelina Jolie?

She’s that beautiful actor who adopts Asian babies, and married the world’s most gorgeous man. They even had their own movie, Mr. and Mrs. Smith.… Continue reading Here

8 Profound Lessons Intimate Relationships Teach Us

Intimacy

Intimacy

Our intimate relationships teach us more than about the hearts of the ones we love. They teach us about ourselves. There is no greater people growing machine than that of love.

Our culture often views love as some fuzzy thing that gets passed around and makes you feel warm inside.… Continue reading Here

How To Fight If Your Marriage Matters

Marriage

Marriage

Tough marriage conflicts can turn into a perfect storm.

Marriage conflicts can be nastyThey can flood the streets of love with the sewage of personal attacks. From what I’ve learned, beating up a loved one is never a fair fight. You know their deepest vulnerabilities, their most important values.… Continue reading Here