How do you respond when your partner questions your intentions?
Do you get angry? Defensive?
One of the big reasons we struggle with relationship conflict is due to the misunderstanding caused by the intention vs. impact battle.
In Dr.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.
It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.
Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here
Love is like a light switch.
When people fall in love, the light turns on. They typically feel excited, captivated, and eager to get to know their partners. They see each other in a positive light.
When couples divorce, the most common reason is that they “grew apart.”… Continue reading Here
After observing thousands of different relationship conflicts, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues noticed that every relationship has two kinds of problems: solvable and unsolvable.
Solvable problems can be resolved with healthy communication, understanding, and commitment to changes. Essentially, once the problem is discussed in a mature way and an adjustment is made, the problem is no longer a problem.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever asked yourself, “Do I stay in this relationship or do I go?”
Briana MacWilliam and I discuss the difficult decision of whether to divorce, ending a long-term relationship, or whether to invest fully in the relationship with the hope that things will get better.… Continue reading Here
Committed relationships are fundamentally difficult because they require the collision of two separate individuals with different life experiences, values, and personalities to love each other. For this very reason, 69% of relationship problems are unsolvable.
How depressing is that?
Surprisingly you don’t have to transform your partner’s personality to have a great relationship.… Continue reading Here