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A Happy Relationship is IMPOSSIBLE Without Trust and Commitment

A Happy Relationship is IMPOSSIBLE Without Trust and Commitment

Trust and Commitment

Love is like Legos. In each passing moment, we are either building a wall between ourselves and our lover or a bridge into each other’s hearts.

Each Lego is an interaction between romantic partners. The deciding factor of whether we open or protect our hearts is the quality of trust.… Continue reading Here

3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)

Betrayal

Betrayal

This was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.… Continue reading Here

The War of Independence In Relationships

Independence

Independence

The idea that partners shouldn’t be needy and should be independent creates a lack of security in the relationship.

Kim and Kevin were on the verge of breaking up. Neither of them wanted to end things, but they were exhausted from fighting and blaming each other.… Continue reading Here

5 Love Books That Will Challenge Your Relationships

Love Books

Love Books

Imagine you’re in an airplane. You’re getting ready to fly to the Caribbean for a romantic getaway when you hear a nervous voice come on over the speaker.

“So we’re about to take off. Just so you know, I’ve never flown a plane before.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps To Becoming An Emotionally Available Lover

Emotionally Available

Emotionally Available

Have you ever been accused of being emotionally unavailable?

This is one of the most common issues couples face. I get a lot of messages like this:

“Hey Kyle, I read your last few articles about emotionally unavailable partners. It makes a lot of sense that you recommend others to avoid those of us with those flaws.Continue reading Here

3 Powerful Ways to Overcome Emotional Blocks in Love

Emotional Block

Emotional Block

Our emotions are the roots to the tree of love.

When we lose control of them, we lose control of ourselves.

We scream. We hurt people we care about. We make decisions that we deeply regret.

From relationship researcher John Gottman to Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, many love researchers agree on one thing: the biggest struggle between couples is an inability to understand the different needs of each other.… Continue reading Here

Why Needing a Relationship is Toxic to a Relationship

Toxic Relationship

Toxic Relationship

In our modern culture, not being in a relationship ends up causing a man to be labeled as “having a problem.”

His parents are worried. They don’t miss a chance to ask him if he’s dating anyone. His friends are trying to help by setting him up on dates with every girl they meet in Starbucks.  … Continue reading Here

The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication

Communication

Communication

Our worries can emotionally hijack our brains. They can entirely consume our thoughts in an endless vacuum of fear.

Opening yourself up, exposing who you are and what you need can be scary in our society. We were raised to be quiet; to not be too loud or crazy.… Continue reading Here