Intentionally Intimate Relationships
Every relationship involves some level of dependency. But in a relationship built of dependency entirely, a chronic sense of anxiety begins to creep in.
Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves and what we believe we are capable of.… Continue reading Here
Anyone who finds themselves in a dysfunctional relationship will either try to make their soulmate “perfect” by changing them, or try to change themselves to be the “perfect” partner.
Here’s the truth:
The quality and quantity of attention each romantic partner gives their relationship influences the satisfaction both partners feel in the relationship.
… Continue reading Here“One of the most important things people get is attention. Attention, interest in you…curiosity about… who are you, the stuff that couples neglect in their relationships.”
The beliefs you adopt in pursuing your relationships determines the type of relationships you end up with.
Why?
We are attracted to those who confirm the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Here are some examples:
Meet Miguel. Miguel plays games, hides his true intentions, and manipulates women to stay in a relationship with him.… Continue reading Here
I teamed up with Mike Goldstein, the EZ Dating Coach, to talk about the relationship rollercoaster, and more generally, modern dating and how to invest your time and heart into building and nurturing an emotionally connected and committed relationship.
We covered a lot of things that are important to creating and sustaining a healthy and emotionally intimate relationship, such as:
One of the most common patterns of an unhealthy relationship is a feeling that you’re on an emotional roller coaster.… Continue reading Here
Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.
It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.
Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here
Creating emotionally committed relationships is similar to baking the most delicious muffins.
This weekend, I attempted to bake gluten-free muffins.
It got me thinking… if lasting love had specific ingredients, what would need to be mixed together?
What would make it delicious year after year?… Continue reading Here
Couples fight about money. All. The. Time.
In fact, money is one of the top five most common causes of conflict within relationships.1
But is the fight really about dollars and cents?
Like most conflicts in relationships, money has symbolic meaning to each partner.… Continue reading Here
“Few dating couples would get married if they had as little focused conversation as most married couples do.” – Dr. Bill Doughty, The Intentional Family
How couples talk to one another and what they discuss determines the way partners stay emotionally connected within their relationship.… Continue reading Here
Having a toxic relationship isn’t as uncommon as you think.
Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. Some of us need more connection, others need independence.
What if I told you there were only two roads to making a toxic relationship healthier?… Continue reading Here