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The Conflict Escalator: The ABCs of Escalating Conflict

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escalating-conflict

Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.

It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.

Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here

9 Secrets of Happy, Healthy, and Emotionally Committed Relationships

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emotionally-committed-relationships

Creating emotionally committed relationships is similar to baking the most delicious muffins.

This weekend, I attempted to bake gluten-free muffins.

It got me thinking… if lasting love had specific ingredients, what would need to be mixed together?

What would make it delicious year after year?Continue reading Here

The Cost of Unexpressed Feelings in Romantic Relationships

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In troubled romantic relationships, unexpressed feelings lead to emotional distance and harsh conflict.

How do you deal with your difficult feelings—including resentment, anger, sadness, hurt, shame, and fear—in your relationship? Do you stuff them inside? Do you attack whoever influenced those feelings to arise?… Continue reading Here

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.

It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.

Good luck with that!Continue reading Here

The Honest Path to Finding a Lifelong Partner With Rachel Russo

First Date

I’ll be honest, dating can be difficult. It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed with the number of possible ways to find a life partner, with deciding whether to go on a second date or cancel and eat Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy, or with knowing when to commit to someone.… Continue reading Here

The Magic 6 Hours That Makes Love Last (Based on Research)

Lasting Love

Lasting Love

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog. 

All of your relationship problems cannot be solved by reading a book, attending a weekend workshop, or enrolling in couples therapy. With that said, learning what distinguishes happy couples from unhappy ones can change the course of how you and your partner love each other.… Continue reading Here

5 Love Books That Will Challenge Your Relationships

Love Books

Love Books

Imagine you’re in an airplane. You’re getting ready to fly to the Caribbean for a romantic getaway when you hear a nervous voice come on over the speaker.

“So we’re about to take off. Just so you know, I’ve never flown a plane before.… Continue reading Here

The Dependency Paradox of Love

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Dependency

Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves, what we believe we are capable of, and they ultimately impact our attempts to achieve our dreams.

Even Mr. Self-Actualization (Abraham Maslow) himself argued that without bonds of love and affection with others, we cannot go on to achieve our full potential as human beings.… Continue reading Here