Authentic Dating Advice

How to Avoid the Relationship Rollercoaster [Interview]

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relationship-rollercoaster

I teamed up with Mike Goldstein, the EZ Dating Coach, to talk about the relationship rollercoaster, and more generally, modern dating and how to invest your time and heart into building and nurturing an emotionally connected and committed relationship.

We covered a lot of things that are important to creating and sustaining a healthy and emotionally intimate relationship, such as:

  • What makes an unhealthy relationship
  • Why some people are attracted to emotionally unavailable partners who value their independence over a committed relationship
  • Figuring out your ideal partner/relationship
  • The telltale signs of an emotionally uninvested partner

The Relationship Rollercoaster

One of the most common patterns of an unhealthy relationship is a feeling that you’re on an emotional roller coaster.… Continue reading Here

The Conflict Escalator: The ABCs of Escalating Conflict

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escalating-conflict

Have you ever taken an escalator? You start at the bottom and without paying attention to what’s actually going on, you move up and up.

It’s the same thing when it comes to escalating conflict.

Escalation within a couple’s conflict happens when each partner communicates in a way that leads to harsher comments, more intense emotions, and the volume going upwards, figuratively and literally.… Continue reading Here

9 Secrets of Happy, Healthy, and Emotionally Committed Relationships

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emotionally-committed-relationships

Creating emotionally committed relationships is similar to baking the most delicious muffins.

This weekend, I attempted to bake gluten-free muffins.

It got me thinking… if lasting love had specific ingredients, what would need to be mixed together?

What would make it delicious year after year?Continue reading Here

Rewrite Your Money Scripts in Marriage: 7 Steps to a Wealthy Relationship

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wealthy-relationship

Couples fight about money. All. The. Time.

In fact, money is one of the top five most common causes of conflict within relationships.1

But is the fight really about dollars and cents?

Like most conflicts in relationships, money has symbolic meaning to each partner.… Continue reading Here

Make Your Toxic Relationship Healthy

Healthy Relationship

Make your toxic relationship healthy

Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. Some of us need more connection, others need independence.  What if I told you there were only two roads to making a toxic relationship healthier?

Road One is breaking up and finding a more secure partner.… Continue reading Here

The Cost of Unexpressed Feelings in Romantic Relationships

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In troubled romantic relationships, unexpressed feelings lead to emotional distance and harsh conflict.

How do you deal with your difficult feelings—including resentment, anger, sadness, hurt, shame, and fear—in your relationship? Do you stuff them inside? Do you attack whoever influenced those feelings to arise?… Continue reading Here

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

6 Signs of a Toxic Relationship

If your “intimacy button” differs from your partner’s, you enter a perfect storm preventing both parties from getting what you want.

It’s like starting a weight loss program with Big Macs and supersized french fries on the menu.

Good luck with that!Continue reading Here

The Honest Path to Finding a Lifelong Partner With Rachel Russo

First Date

I’ll be honest, dating can be difficult. It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed with the number of possible ways to find a life partner, with deciding whether to go on a second date or cancel and eat Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy, or with knowing when to commit to someone.… Continue reading Here