All Articles Organized by Date
To browse all of my articles by title and date, scroll down. Articles are listed in reverse chronological order with my latest essays at the top and my oldest post at the bottom.
September 2023
August 2023
- 22: The Avoid-Avoid Dance: Overcoming Attachment Fears for Deeper Connection
- 08: The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection
- 03: The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
July 2023
- 26: Understanding Attachment Distress: Nurturing Emotional Security in Relationships
- 17: The Secure Base: Empowering Growth in Your Relationship & Nurturing Dreams
- 17: Unlocking the Power of Secure Relationships: Creating a Nurturing Safe Haven
June 2023
- 23: The 2 Essential Questions We Ask In Our Romantic Relationships
- 19: 11 Tips to Make Couples Therapy Effective
- 13: Debunking Couples Therapy Myths
- 02: Unlocking Sexual Wellness: Exploring the Benefits of Sex Therapy
May 2023
- 30: 7 Clear Signs Your Relationship Needs Couples Therapy
- 25: Intentional Relationship Mindset Shift: You, Me, & We
- 11: How to Find a Competent Sex Therapist
April 2023
- 24: 5 Tips To Finding an Effective and Competent Couples Therapist
- 23: Honest Sex: An Interview with Shana James
March 2023
October 2022
July 2022
June 2022
May 2022
- 20: 5 Tips to Make a Long-Distance Relationship Work
- 11: 5 Ways to Build Emotional Wealth in Your Relationship
March 2022
February 2022
December 2021
- 28: New Year’s Resolutions: A New Opportunity for Intimacy (20+ Questions to Ask Your Lover)
- 13: Reduce the Holiday Stress: Become an Expert on You and Your Partner’s Stress Cycle
- 08: Criticism Kills Relationships: Why this Habit is Poisonous
November 2021
October 2021
- 20: Ways to Cultivate a Strong Romantic Relationship
- 13: The 6 Commandments of Vulnerable Communication
September 2021
July 2021
May 2021
April 2021
March 2021
February 2021
January 2021
- 14: The Relationship Thermostat: Why Adjusting the Temperature Early Can Save Your Relationship Later
- 13: 2 Hidden Ways We Sabotage Intimacy In a Relationship We Want
December 2020
- 09: Dependency in Relationships: What to Expect
- 02: 6 Steps to Becoming an Emotionally Available Partner
November 2020
- 11: Conflict in Relationships Isn’t the Root of All Evil
- 07: 4 Hidden Issues That Prevent Relationships From Being Happy and How to Identify Them
- 04: Black Lives Matter: How Understanding with Activism Can Create Change
October 2020
September 2020
August 2020
July 2020
June 2020
May 2020
April 2020
March 2020
- 11: Even Your Soulmate Will Cause Relationship Problems
- 09: How to Find a Couples Therapist Who Can Actually Help You
- 03: Is it Time to Go to Couples Counseling?
- 03: Negative Interpretations in Romantic Relationships: When What You Think Happened Is Worse Than What Actually Happened
February 2020
- 24: The Intentions vs. Impact Debate: When Partner’s Unintentionally Hurt Each Other
- 12: How to Make a Relationship Last: The Love Tank Theory
January 2020
December 2019
- 16: Is a Lack of Attention Costing Your Relationship?
- 11: 4 Sex Books You Must Read To Understand Sexuality & Orgasm
- 05: 5 Steps to Inspire Your Partner to Join You in Attending Couples Therapy
November 2019
- 13: Attachment Theory Explains Why Your Relationships Fail
- 07: How to Avoid the Relationship Rollercoaster [Interview]
October 2019
- 24: The Conflict Escalator: The ABCs of Escalating Conflict
- 11: 9 Secrets of Happy, Healthy, and Emotionally Committed Relationships
- 09: 5 Easy Ways to Make Sex More Intimate and Romantic
September 2019
- 19: Divorce Prevention: The Light Switch of Love Dilemma
- 11: How Chronic Stonewalling Imprisons a Relationship
August 2019
- 21: Relationship Conflict: 9 Signs Yours is Unsolvable and Destructive
- 15: The 6 Types of Relationship-Strengthening Conversations Intentional Couples Have
July 2019
- 10: Make Your Toxic Relationship Healthy
- 08: Both Partners Are Never Equally Satisfied in a Romantic Relationship
- 01: The Cost of Unexpressed Feelings in Romantic Relationships
May 2019
April 2019
March 2019
- 29: The Relationship Decision: Do I Stay or Do I Go? With Briana MacWilliam
- 28: Attachment and Couple Dances With Briana MacWilliam
- 27: The People Pleaser’s Inner Child Work in Adult Relationships With Briana MacWilliam
- 25: A Creative Exercise to Answer Your Most Burning Relationship Question: With Briana MacWilliam
- 05: What is the Difference Between Love and Attachment? With Briana MacWilliam
February 2019
- 14: How Can I Spice Up the Romance in My Relationship? With Briana MacWilliam
- 11: How Do I Express My Needs in a Relationship? With Briana MacWilliam
- 05: Is There Space For Both Personalities In Your Relationship?
January 2019
- 23: The Top 10 Relationship Books I Read in 2018
- 09: How We Used The Aftermath of a Fight to Repair Our Relationship
September 2018
August 2018
July 2018
June 2018
May 2018
March 2018
- 23: 7 Daily Rituals Intentional Couples Use to Cultivate Lasting Love
- 08: You Are Only As Insecure As The Relationship You’re In
February 2018
January 2018
- 31: The Death of Love Isn’t Natural: The 7 Steps to Separation
- 02: The Top 10 Relationship Articles of 2017
December 2017
- 30: 6 Steps to an Effective Time-out That Stops Nasty Conflict
- 26: Understand the Attachment Styles in Your Relationship with Stan Tatkin
- 23: Win Relationship Conflict By Letting Your Partner Win Too
- 20: War or Love: Flaws of The Human Brain in Relationship Conflict
- 20: 5 Tips to Stress-Proof Your Marriage This Holiday Season
November 2017
- 21: A Better Me Makes A Better We: An Interview with Ellyn Bader, Ph.D.
- 16: 5 Reasons Needy Romantic Partners Remain Insecure
- 09: How You Think About Your Spouse Determines How You Love Them
October 2017
September 2017
August 2017
- 23: Stopping the Pursue-Withdraw Pattern: An Interview with Scott R. Woolley, Ph.D.
- 17: Great Relationships Are Not Accidents
- 10: Have You Committed to a Contempt-Free Marriage?
July 2017
June 2017
- 30: Small Things Often Create Secure Attachments: An Interview With Amir Levine, M.D.
- 23: Reaching a Compromise: Part two of the State of the Union Meeting
- 18: Understanding Each Other: Part One of the State of The Union Meeting
- 08: Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings, Connect with Them Instead
- 01: How to Listen Without Getting Defensive in Relationship Conflict
May 2017
- 25: Understanding Must Precede Advice in Relationship Conflict
- 17: Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict
- 11: There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid
April 2017
- 26: This Pre-Conflict Warm-up Helps Couples Fight Better
- 15: Do You Bottle Your Emotions? Susan David, Ph.D. Describes How It Hurts Your Relationship
March 2017
February 2017
- 27: An Always Happy Relationship is a Doomed Relationship
- 07: Repairs During Conflict Are a Superpower of Emotionally Connected Couples
January 2017
- 19: How Emotional Agility Improves Relationships: An Interview with Susan David, Ph.D.
- 18: 4 Common Solvable Problems in Romantic Relationships
December 2016
- 29: The Top 10 Relationship Articles of 2016
- 26: The Risky Paradox of Love: The More You Give, The More You Feel
- 21: Couples That Talk About Sex Have Better Sex
- 10: The Magic 6 Hours That Make Love Last (Based on Research)
- 01: The One Daily Talk That Will Change Your Relationship
November 2016
- 25: The Black Friday of Relationships (& The Thanksgiving Challenge)
- 04: 4 Marriage Myths That Ruin Marriages Without Partners Realizing It
October 2016
- 07: Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship
- 03: Avoid 3 Common Money Myths in Marriage
September 2016
- 26: 4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships
- 19: 6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage
- 15: 5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation
- 12: Automate Money in Your Marriage and Save More Than Just Money
- 09: 3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)
- 06: 4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage
- 03: 5 Signs You May Need to Bail on Your Relationship (Based on Research)
August 2016
- 29: 5 Guidelines for a Constructive Conversation About Finances in Your Marriage
- 26: 3 Proven Ways To Reconnect When You’re Disconnected From Your Partner
- 22: The Money Laws of Marriage: How to Prevent Declaring Emotional Bankruptcy
- 15: The Meaning of Money in Marriage: Arguments Are Not Just About Saving or Spending
- 09: The #1 Thing Couples Fight About Based On 40 Years Of Research
- 05: 5 Love Books That Will Challenge Your Relationships
July 2016
June 2016
- 13: Why Couples Stop Having Sex: The Paradox Of Yes In Saying No
- 08: 7 Enhancing Lovemaking Conversations for Couples
May 2016
- 26: How To Fight If Your Marriage Matters
- 26: Easily Indicate You Want Sex Using the Arousal Scale for Couples
- 11: Why Is Sex Such A Massive Issue For Unhappy Couples?
- 09: Why Sticking To I Statements In Couple Talk Is So Cliche
- 02: The Couple’s Guide To Fighting Better: Focus On The Issue
April 2016
- 21: The Story of Us: The Difference Between Happy & Unhappy Couples
- 18: Are Love Laws Throwing You In Relationship Jail?
March 2016
October 2015
- 23: The Strange Way Childhood Shapes Your Adult Relationships
- 19: Why Needing a Relationship is Toxic to a Relationship
- 05: Why Insecure People Struggle With Vulnerability
September 2015
- 20: The Bizarre Way Invulnerability Prevents Healthy Relationships
- 16: Healthy Relationships: Does Your Lover Actually Love You?
June 2015
- 10: Values in Dating are Important
- 07: Romantic Attraction: Where You Live Matters
- 04: Successful Dating Demographics