Author: Kyle Benson

Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgemental style and his capacity to seeing the root problem. Download the Intimacy 5 Challenge to learn where you and your partner can improve your emotional connection and build lasting intimacy.

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

Overcome

Overcome

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

Financial Wealth

Managing money in marriage can create tension between partners, bankrupting the relationship both financially and emotionally. This is because arguments about money are not about money. Money has a deeper meaning than the dollar value it elicits – it represents security, freedom, and the opportunity to achieve our dreams.… Continue reading Here

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

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Secure

How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws?

Conflict conversations  in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here

3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)

Betrayal

Betrayal

This was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

FInancial Gridlock

All couples are bound to have arguments about money. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap. Each partner pulls for his or her position, making compromise impossible.… Continue reading Here

5 Signs You May Need to Bail on Your Relationship (Based on Research)

Unhealthy Relationship

Unhealthy Relationship

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

The idea that the love in your relationship has expired is a difficult thought for one to stomach. I often think of myself as Cupid’s sidekick. I root for couples that I work with to triumph, but I have seen love turn into hate and fondness into bitterness.… Continue reading Here

4 Powerful Exercises That Make A Toxic Relationship Healthy

Healthy Relationship

Healthy Relationship

Love is a dance of connection and disconnection. There are times when you feel compelled by your lover, and other times when you feel the need for alone time.

Some of us need more connection, others need more independence. Sometimes these differences lead to a toxic relationship.… Continue reading Here

5 Guidelines for a Constructive Conversation About Finances in Your Marriage

5 Guidelines for a Constructive Conversation About Finances in Your Marriage

Finances

How do you fight with your partner when money is on the table? Do you argue with them over how to budget or criticize them for their “uncontrollable” spending habits?

As we’ve learned so far in the Managing Money in Marriage column, conflicts about money in a marriage aren’t really about money.… Continue reading Here