Author: Kyle Benson

Kyle Benson is an Intentionally Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgemental style and his capacity to seeing the root problem. Download the Intimacy 5 Challenge to learn where you and your partner can improve your emotional connection and build lasting intimacy.

Building a Thriving Relationship: Insights from Dr. Stan Tatkin

Couples Therapy
thriving relationship, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure-functioning relationship

In a recent interview, Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned marriage and family therapist, researcher, and author of the best selling book In Each Other’s Care, shared invaluable insights on how to create and maintain a thriving relationship. Dr. Tatkin’s expertise in couples therapy and his psychobiological approach, known as PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), provides a unique perspective on fostering a strong and flourishing connection with your partner.… Continue reading Here

Relationship Disconnection: Unraveling the Attachment Cycle

attachment cycles, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious-avoidant trap, blame game, avoid-avoid cycle

In the intricate web of human relationships, delving into the attachment bonds that weave our interactions is key to unlocking secure relationships.

Within emotionally focused couples therapy, we often encounter reoccurring attachment cycles—a pattern that can act as a virus, infecting the emotional connection within a relationship and giving rise to feelings of disconnection and loneliness.… Continue reading Here

The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection

The Blame Game: Attachment Dynamics in Conflict and Reconnection
Blame game, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, criticize-defense pattern

In the intricate dance of romantic relationships, an intriguing yet often distressing pattern emerges – the “Blame Game” dynamic. This complex interplay involves partners striving for connection and validation through confrontational tactics rather than embracing vulnerability.

The question that inevitably arises is: What prompts individuals to resort to such seemingly counter-connecting behaviors?Continue reading Here

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships

The Protest-Withdraw Pattern: Unraveling Emotional Disconnect in Relationships
protest-withdraw pattern, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment

This article was originally published on Healing Moments Counseling.

Meet Sarah and Alex – a young, multicultural couple in their late twenties who recently moved to Seattle, Wa seeking new opportunities. Sarah, a software engineer, and Alex, a marketing specialist, were excited about this fresh chapter in their lives.… Continue reading Here