Different Types of Lovers Create Different Relationships

The Telltale Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner

You probably dream of having a committed lover who cherishes you, but your relationships tend to recreate your worst nightmare:

  • Roller Coaster Effect: You have amazing moments of closeness and connection followed by longer periods of time where your partner doesn't want to spend time with you.
  • Ongoing Uncertainty: You find yourself always questioning whether your partner loves you. When you ask, you never get a clear answer. This questioning makes you anxious and you fear that you're a burden for your partner.
  • Your Needs Are Rejected: You're told that you're "too needy" or "oversensitive," and you fear that something is wrong with you.
  • You Fear Abandonment: You are constantly worried that your partner will leave you.
  • Me-ness: It feels like your partner cares more about what they want than what you want.
  • Unresponsive: You don't know how to express your needs to get your partner to respond in a way that demonstrates caring. You feel trapped, like you are walking on eggshells. You feel scared that you're just not that important to your partner.


The Telltale Signs of an Emotionally Available Lover

An emotionally available and committed lover is:  

  • Secure: Your partner enjoys being intimate and emotional/physically close. When your partner wants to spend time alone they do so in a way that makes you feel loved and cared for.  
  • An Authentic Communicator: Your partner truly values your feelings and opinions. They ask questions and openly share what is on their heart. They believe that working through a problem is going to improve the relationship.  
  • Appreciative: Your partner cherishes you and openly expresses that to your face as well as friends and family.  
  • Caring and Supportive: Your partner makes your needs as important as their needs. When you're hurting they stop and listen and work with you to figure out how to love you better.  
  • Ready to Commit: When you think about your partner you have no question about their commitment. You know deep down that they are 100% emotionally invested and are willing to do what it takes to make things work.

An emotionally unavailable partner causes you to feel insecure, sacrifice your needs and goals, and feel like you are unworthy of love. 

Imagine what it might be like to have a partner who is committed, emotionally available, and intimate:  

  • How would you feel about yourself in a relationship with an emotionally available and committed partner?  
  • How would your life be different with a caring, responsive, and faithful partner?  
  • When you feel supported and loved, what might you do more of? What might you do less of?

What You'll Learn in the Seminar

Insecurity is not caused by a person, it is created within a relationship.  

That's why I'm going to teach you how to vet potential romantic partners so that you can find someone who will make you feel cherished, important, and respected. Even if you've found yourself in relationship after relationship with emotionally unavailable partners, you can learn how to break that cycle.  

The "Attract a Lover Who Makes You Feel Important, Loved, and Cared For" Virtual Seminar teaches a straightforward, research-proven framework for finding an emotionally available and connected partner.  

In this seminar, you'll learn...  

  • The secrets of long-lasting, happy, and emotionally connected relationships (and how to use them to your advantage).  
  • Why emotionally unavailable partners make you feel miserable (and the 9 red flags to watch for).  
  • 7 great questions to ask a potential date to see if they are emotionally available and ready for commitment.  
  • 3 techniques to properly vet a potential romantic partner before you fall in love with them.  
  • The 4 Commandments of vulnerable and direct communication that attract emotionally available and committed lovers.  
  • The 6 questions you must ask yourself to determine in you should walk away from a relationship  

Plain and simple, this seminar will give you the tools to improve the quality of people you date, even if you have struggled with relationships in the past.

Available Now (Only $49)


96% of the seminar attendees rated the seminar as excellent and extremely helpful. 

"I really enjoyed your seminar and so did two of my clients who attended! I know they gained valuable information from your seminar!" 

Susan Winter, NYC Relationship Expert (Featured on Oprah)

"It was very encouraging. I have not attempted dating since breaking up with my avoidant ex due to how much emotional damage he did and not wanting to end up with another avoidant. I'm still not 100% ready, but I am closer than I was before the seminar."


"I just got engaged to a man who is fully committed and loving! I remember talking to you about my ex who would only call me every three days and am so glad you convinced me to walk away from him."

Elise (Client)

"I really learned a lot. I am definitely someone that is attracted to the emotionally unavailable, or at least this has been the case with the last guy I was involved with, which has now been consuming my thoughts and attention for almost two years now. I look forward to implementing your advice!"  


"It was really difficult being direct about what I needed in a relationship. I ended two potentially amazing relationships because those partners didn't seem to care about my feelings. I'm glad I listened to you and have continued to risk being direct. I now have a partner who meets my needs and is invested in our relationship! You were right when you said, "the degree that we honor our needs is the degree we allow others to do the same." I am truly grateful." 

Brandon (Client)

Your Instructor

Hi there. I'm Kyle Benson and I'm the creator of "Attract a Lover Who Makes You Feel Important, Loved, and Cared For." I've spent the last three years immersed in the study of what makes love last, interviewing researchers and experts in the field, and experimenting with my own strategies and explanations to develop simple and practical ways to build better relationships.  

The authentic framework you’ll learn in “The Attract a Lover Who Makes You Feel Important, Loved, and Cared For Seminar” is the culmination of my years of study and practice, and I’m thrilled to be able to offer it to you.  

Here is a bit more about me:  

  • Over 200,000 people read my articles every year and my work has been featured in US News, Business Insider, The Gottman Institute, and more.  
  • Over 15,000 people subscribe to my weekly emails on how to find and create healthy and meaningful relationships.

Here's What You Will Recieve

  • A 60-minute seminar teaching my "Attract a Lover Who Makes You Feel Important, Loved, and Cared For" framework.  
  • A recording of 30 minutes of Q&A to answer questions on how to attract an emotionally available and committed partner for you.  
  • Downloadable video/audio versions, so you can study and implement the tools on your schedule.  
  • 100% money-back guarantee withing the first 30 days. If you don't love it, I'll refund you. It's as simple as that