Month: May 2017

Understanding Must Precede Advice in Relationship Conflict

Kyle Benson Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Emotional Connection, Marriage Conflict, Mindset, State of the Union, Trust, Commitment, & Relationship Security
Understanding Must Precede Advice in Relationship Conflict

Understand

Mike finds his wife’s “explosion” of anger “unbearable.” When she gets angry, he tries to neutralize or fix her feelings. He often tries to problem solve before understanding why Stacey is upset. This makes Stacey feel dumb for experiencing and expressing her innate feelings.… Continue reading Here

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

Kyle Benson Beliefs, Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Emotional Connection, Marriage Conflict, Mindset, Psychology, Relationships, Responsibility, State of the Union, Vulnerability
Wishing

Wishing

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.

In the heat of an argument, it’s far easier to say what we don’t want than what we do. Stan Tatkin, the founder of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy, proposes that people are better built for war than love.… Continue reading Here

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

Kyle Benson Beliefs, Better Relationships, Conflict Conversation, Emotional Connection, Love, Marriage Conflict, Mindset, Psychology, Relationships, Responsibility, State of the Union, Vulnerability
Conflict

Conflict

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Heather’s voice raises as she says, “How can you not see it my way? It’s the truth and you know it. You’re just too stubborn to admit it!”

Jason responds, “That’s not what happened at all.… Continue reading Here

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