Month: September 2016

4 Steps to Overcome Gridlock That Harms Relationships

couples fighting, conflict, emotionally focused couples therapy, Kyle Benson

Overcome

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

All couples are bound to have arguments. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

 

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap.… Continue reading Here

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

6 Steps to Financial Wealth in Your Marriage

Financial Wealth

Managing money in marriage can create tension between partners, bankrupting the relationship both financially and emotionally. This is because arguments about money are not about money. Money has a deeper meaning than the dollar value it elicits – it represents security, freedom, and the opportunity to achieve our dreams.… Continue reading Here

5 Rules for Having Constructive Relationship Conflict Conversation

Secure

Secure

How do you fight with your partner? Do you argue with them over how to love you or criticize them for their flaws?

Conflict conversations  in a relationship are not about the conflict. Most arguments are about nothing more than what the event means to each person in the relationship.… Continue reading Here

3 Betrayals That Ruin Relationships (That Don’t Require Sex)

Betrayal

Betrayal

This was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.… Continue reading Here

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

4 Steps to Overcome Financial Gridlock in Your Marriage

FInancial Gridlock

All couples are bound to have arguments about money. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”

Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap. Each partner pulls for his or her position, making compromise impossible.… Continue reading Here

5 Signs You May Need to Bail on Your Relationship (Based on Research)

Unhealthy Relationship

Unhealthy Relationship

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog

The idea that the love in your relationship has expired is a difficult thought for one to stomach. I often think of myself as Cupid’s sidekick. I root for couples that I work with to triumph, but I have seen love turn into hate and fondness into bitterness.… Continue reading Here