October 2015 - Kyle Benson

The Reason Scientists Are Confused About Attraction

Kyle Benson October 26, 2015August 22, 2019 Attraction, Authentic Dating Advice, Love, Relationships

If you’ve ever been confused on why some scientists and researchers say “birds of a feather flock together” while others believe “opposites attract,” you’re not alone. Throughout this site, I’ve promoted the concept that we attract what we are, but this doesn’t explain why some adventure sports junkies who throw triple black flips are married to unadventurous bookworms, or why a detailed-driven CEO of a Fortune 500 company is madly in love with a lofty jewelry-maker.… Continue reading Here

The Strange Way Childhood Shapes Your Adult Relationships

Kyle Benson October 23, 2015August 22, 2019 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Love, Psychology, Rejection, Relationships

Throughout the 1950’s and 1960’s, Harlow unethically experimented with monkeys in order to understand the effects of deprivation on human infants.

He raised infant monkeys in isolation.

Despite being fed, some died. Others were frightened and behaved in an abnormal manner. … Continue reading Here

Why Needing a Relationship is Toxic to a Relationship

Kyle Benson October 19, 2015August 22, 2019 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Attraction, Authentic Dating Advice, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Boundaries, Dating, Happiness, Identity, Love, Psychology, Rejection, Relationships, Shame, Values

In our modern culture, not being in a relationship ends up causing a person to be labeled as “having a problem.”

His parents are worried. They don’t miss a chance to ask him if he’s dating anyone. His friends are trying to help by setting him up on dates with every girl they meet in Starbucks. … Continue reading Here

The 6 Factors That Determine Who You Fall In Love With

Kyle Benson October 14, 2015October 19, 2020 Attraction, Authentic Dating Advice, Beliefs, Culture, Identity, Love, Psychology, Relationships, Values

During one of my bro moments, a buddy and I were checking out a bachelorette party and choosing who the sexiest woman was in the room. At first we agreed on basic body types and symmetries. We both liked fit, tall women, but soon we started disagreeing.… Continue reading Here

Why You Choose Who You Love

Kyle Benson October 7, 2015February 11, 2019 Attraction, Authentic Dating Advice, Culture, Love, Relationships, Values

The club opens up to the dance floor, and the flicker of her eyes connect with mine as the flashing lights shimmer on her, consumed in the darkness.

My heart started racing. My head started pounding. It felt as if my mind was a missile and she was my target.… Continue reading Here

Why Insecure People Struggle With Vulnerability

Kyle Benson October 5, 2015February 11, 2019 Anxiety, Attachment Theory, Beliefs, Better Relationships, Emotional Connection, Love, Psychology, Rejection, Relationships, Shame, Vulnerability

As we’ve seen on this site, vulnerable communication is the solution for finding a healthy relationship and happy life. At a glance, most treat vulnerability as if it is something every person can do. Many believe that if the person sets their mind to it, they can get their needs met in a healthy manner.… Continue reading Here