Far too often I work with people that feel like they get walked on in their dating life. They’re unsure if the person they like reciprocates those feelings back. Most of these people struggle in their dating lives because they choose not to assert themselves in fear of being rejected, or being deemed high-maintenance or unattractive for seeming needy.… Continue reading Here
Instead of thinking about the performance you want to achieve or the appearance you want to give off, I challenge you to ask yourself – what is the type of identity of a person who is attractive?… Continue reading Here
Identity is often viewed as finite and consisting of separate and distinct parts such as family, cultural, religion, personal and professional. But according to Parker Palmer and other psychologists,
Our identity is an ever-evolving core within our biology, and experiences in culture – with our loved ones, friends, people who have harmed or humiliated us as well as people we have harmed, the deeds we’ve done (good or bad) to ourselves and others, other experiences and choices made come together in a melting pot to form who we are in this very moment.
Sometimes we lose our sense of self in a relationship. We can feel a love so deep, it can be as if we’ve become one with our partner and the universe. It’s a unique, fairy-tale experience, and it’s what psychologists call a collapse of the ego state.… Continue reading Here
My face presses against the sliding glass door as my dad cuts down branches and my mom trims down the half-acre yard they’ve worked so hard for. The wealth they had to accumulate over the course of twenty-nine years of hard work has lead to this very moment.… Continue reading Here